He loves me so he has sex with others…

Recap: Bob, my BF for the past 2 years, is a sex addict.  I (we) found out 6ish weeks ago and I am messed-up.  He lived a completely double life.  He is addicted to masterbation, really soft porn, cybersex, had at least one physical affair and he’s a liar.

Ok, so here’s the thing (my conjecture)…

• Bob likes conquests. 
• Bob likes the endorphin release and the zoning out emotions of sex. 
• Bob has low self esteem and needs to be massaged (in more ways than one) by thinking all of these women actually want him.
• Plus rejection issues, abandonment issues and a whole pack of other psychological stuff which have recently come to light.  Bob is looking for his true fantasy girl to come true – he’ll never find that, people are human and they have feelings and somedays look and feel hideous.  Plus, they fart.

So here’s the main thing.  Love and sex do not go together in Bob’s mind.  Sex is what gets him off and a need.  Love is a want.  Moreover, the main thing is he loves me so therefore he cannot treat me like a whore.  I’m trying not to laugh when I say this because all of this sex addiction shows the opposite, but…

he loves me and therefore respects me and sex is then dirty with me.  Like sleeping with a sister I’d imagine.

Where has our passion been for the past year?  On my side.  I can’t remember the last time he tried to paw at me or have intercourse (or a good f’ing for that matter).  We had sex three times a week, for 3 minutes a time, when he could get it up.  Lucky, I have no issue getting off quickly, I guess.

So lucky me…he loves me so he has sex with others…