Religion & Sex Addiction…

Why is God in the picture everywhere you see addiction stuff?  I am a Christian (afraid that I’m blaspheming here), but my BF isn’t and the 12 step programs are based on a higher power.  Well, that’s kind of  hard to get your head around starting a 12 step program without even knowing or believing [...]

Letter from a sex addict to me

A few weeks ago “Bob” gave me a card…It was a beautiful card and this was the inscription that he wrote.  he said it was hard and took him a couple of hours:
How do I even begin to say I’m sorry for everything I have put you through.  You didn’t deserve any of this; there [...]

I admit I’ve let myself go since finding out about his sex addiction

Yep, I’ve given up.  I cannot possibly look as good as the airbrushed models, porn stars and I definately can’t compete with Bob’s fantasies.
So here’s the thing…I’ve

stopped shaving my legs and my “bits” ( i am shaving airpits since it’s summer)
i don’t care what i eat
I am wearing PJs all the time
most days I don’t [...]

How my BF reacted to me speaking with the other woman…

Well, when I first told him I was going to go and tell Lisa’s husband he was miffed. 
He said why would I want to try to involve other people in this mess?  I said, I’d have liked Lisa’s husband to show up at my door, if he had evidence, dates, photos, etc. and tell me.  Bob said he [...]

I talked to the other woman in the sex addiction triangle

Recap: “Bob” had a year long plus affair with Lisa. Lisa is married with 2 kids. They met in a cybersex chat room, talked and cybersexed for about a month and then met at a bar for an hour and got a hotel room and had sex. They would spend about 4 hours a week [...]

No sex – what does that mean for a sex addict…

Yesterday my BF, who is a sex addict, came home and was agitated. He fell asleep on the couch after dinner and said he’s just really tired. He’s been home with me every night since we discovered his sex addiction 7 ish weeks ago and I’ve been talking incessantly about the affair, asking questions, trying [...]

Looking for books on what “normal” relationships are…

All of the research I have read on sex addiction states that sex addicts don’t know what normal is.
I’m trying to find a good book to read that details what a normal family is and what a normal relationship is – to no avail. I’m looking for this because I’m not sure I’m the [...]