Imago test great for partners of sex addicts and sex addicts alike, well everyone really

Shrink says I’m not co-dependent – I never really thought I was, but I had some doubts.  Woohoo…she says I’m just traumatized and that with some personal work I could get over this too. 
She gave me homework called Imago and stated that you didn’t have to have had an “abused”  childhood to do it.  She [...]

Partner of sex addict, “Can I be any more confused?”

Dammit, I’m so confused.  I have no idea who I am anymore, truly and I’m not the damned sex addict.
I’m not feeling sorry for myself, but I am trying to come to a conclusion.  I haven’t left, but I want to – I haven’t stayed emotionally, but I want to…what the heck???
I was an impulsive [...]

HPV – I’ve got pre-cancer – condoms do not protect

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Lisa from Buffalo: The physical affair with sex addict

Throughout this blog I have made mention about Lisa, the person Bob had an affair with.  Lisa is her real name and I am going to put as many details on here as possible about what I know of her.  She is not responsible for Bob’s acting out and he certainly would have done it [...]

Is Your Wife Having a Cyber Affair – Is this her?

Yep…definately bitter. I know there is some controversy surrounding naming and shaming but I’ll be honest. I’m tired of being Miss Nice Gal.

So…here it is…this person has cybersexed a lot with Bob. She was on his MSN …

My Advice for Sex Addicts with Partners They Love

I have never been married, I have no children and I can financially support myself – I have friends who support me emotionally and a wonderful family.  So this advice doesn’t take into consideration people who cannot leave their situation for other reasons than pure emotion.  And I’m not saying leave.
Sex addicts.  My advice to [...]

My Decision to Stay or Leave Sex Addict

We also started couples counselling before I found out about the affair/ the addiction…only to find out that our counsellor did more damage than good. He told Bob, after he was a confirmed sex addict, that it was perfectly acceptable to comment on a woman’s cleavage if she was wearing a low cut top, because that’s why she’d wear it. Bob said he’d get fired for that and does he (shrink) realize he’s a sex addict. We never went to another counsellor at all. Bob tried to get an appointment with the only SA counsellor in our city – but his calls were never returned. Apparently.