7 weeks after learning my BF is a sex addict

Wish I wasn’t writing this blog.  Wish none of this sex addiction stuff ever happened.  Wish…wish…wish…
I’m doing better.  The shock is over and now I need to decide what to do.  I know none of the pornography, masterbation, cybersex and affairs had anything to do with me.  I do know that I am scared for [...]

I talked to the other woman in the sex addiction triangle

Recap: “Bob” had a year long plus affair with Lisa. Lisa is married with 2 kids. They met in a cybersex chat room, talked and cybersexed for about a month and then met at a bar for an hour and got a hotel room and had sex. They would spend about 4 hours a week [...]

No sex – what does that mean for a sex addict…

Yesterday my BF, who is a sex addict, came home and was agitated. He fell asleep on the couch after dinner and said he’s just really tired. He’s been home with me every night since we discovered his sex addiction 7 ish weeks ago and I’ve been talking incessantly about the affair, asking questions, trying [...]

My Friends Know About His Sex Addiction…their thoughts

I have a great group of close friends…they are cool, fun and we all genuinely care about each other and we talk about everything and I mean everything. A couple are married, some in long-term relationships and some single. I feel very grateful for them.
As soon as I found out about [...]

Great post by sex addict explaining love & addiction

I’ve spent a lot of time these weeks looking for and searching for answers, understanding…something to make me feel better, to make this ok.  To enforce the idea that the sex addiction has nothing to do with me, per se. 
I found an amazing post on a message board yesterday from a sex addict describing how [...]

My BF is a sex addict – here’s my background…

I’ve spent 2 years with a sex addict and didn’t know it.  I knew something was up.  Blamed it on my jealousy/trust issues, but reality is I just didn’t trust my intuition – thought I was crazy.
So me…
I’m 38, have had 3 five year relationships, never been married, no kids. 
I have an eating disorder which [...]

He loves me so he has sex with others…

Recap: Bob, my BF for the past 2 years, is a sex addict.  I (we) found out 6ish weeks ago and I am messed-up.  He lived a completely double life.  He is addicted to masterbation, really soft porn, cybersex, had at least one physical affair and he’s a liar.
Ok, so here’s the thing (my conjecture)…

Bob [...]

Sex addict’s family of origin

Bob grew up in a non-traditional home.  His Mother and Father were alcoholics and they worked nights.  On the weekends they were drunk and ran errands and never had time for Bob or his 2 siblings.
A typical day for Bob would be…
Getting dressed for school (his Parents would leave food and clean clothes for him), [...]

The signs of addiction in the past two years…

So for the previous year and likely throughout the 2 years I had been playing private investigator. I knew something was up, but not sure what exactly. We argued and I brought up the text message stuff about every 3 or 4 weeks. The story would change slightly but not majorly. Guess I believed what i wanted to, but subconciously I knew there was something going on. I felt crazy and my stomach would turn. Sometimes I wouldn’t look for weeks because I was afraid of what I’d find.

My boyfriend is a cybersex addict

A month ago it all came out that my boyfriend is a sex addict. He’s addicted to cybersex, masterbation and he’s had an affair. That is the stuff he’s admitted to