One Foot, Two Foot – Relationships & Sex Addiction

Bob & I had an interesting conversation the other night about our relationship.  I think he really understood what I’ve been trying to say over these past 5 months.  We generally need an intrepreter becuase what I think I’m saying and what he understands are 2 different things entirely – and vice versa.
I asked him [...]

Sex, Lies & Forgiveness – Couples speaking out on healing from addiction

So, I’m  re-reading the book by Jennifer Schneider & Burt Schneider and 5 months later I really find it a valuable tool to understanding.  The authors surveyed people and it is filled with examples, the way people feel on both sides.  There are some things that stick out for me…so I’ll excerpt them here. Both sides should [...]

Having a bad day thinking about sex addict’s past -grrrrr

Sometimes I wish I could read minds – and then sometimes I don’t.
Today and last night I do.  Bob and I generally argue about the same things over and over.  He knows what he’s done and I don’t.  I want to know – all of it, I just want my mind to rest so I [...]

Good days & bad days with sex addicts

Well, Bob & I are both having good days and bad days right now.  For me I have days where I can’t get the images out of my head, I snoop, which makes me feel bad about myself (my heart pounds and I feel sick while I’m doing it.  I feel sick about what I [...]

Antidepressants & sex addiction

Bob’s a mess (I can relate), truly – not sleeping, no concentration and really in shock about discovering that he was not in control of his “habits” that it controlled him and he can’t get his head around it.  So, he hasn’t excluded going on anti-depressents. 
So here’s my dilemma.  I know antidepressents help slow down  [...]

How to cope with your partner when you’re a sex addict

I have a few things on my chest that I want to get out, so if you’re a recovering sex addict and you have a partner, listen up!
You’ve likely lived a double life for as along as you can remember.  You’ve probably medicated yourself with porn, cybersex, masterbation and/or other sex-related activities.  If you’re recovering [...]

My anger seems to have gone…

I don’t have that intense anger right now.  I’m not sure where it went or how it even left.  With Bob it feels like things are a bit like the way they used to be, the good parts – except there is always the proverbial elephant in the room.
I think it may be due to [...]