Textbook Partner of Sex Addict – On The Cusp of my Own Affair

I have reconnected with someone I used to know. All of the books I’ve read show that there is a large number of partners of sex addicts that have affairs. I am possibly on the cusp of being that person. I feel guilty and don’t know if I can go through with it. But I think about it – I think about him – and I think about Bob.

Intellectualizing vs. Feeling – Partners of Sex Addicts

A commenter on my blog says some pretty amazing things and the other day the blogger said,
“Really think about what it would feel like. Don’t intellectualize, don’t research, I think your research has actually clouded your judgement.”
I’d have to say they have a point.  While my PMS kicked into full gear the last few (angry) [...]

One day chip at Sex & Love Addicts Anon…Again

Bob has now gone to 3 meetings of  SLAA – Sex & Love Addicts Anon.  He says he’s been 9 weeks “sober” from his sex addiction.  If that is true – wow, that’s great news.  He’s been masterbating for at least 20 years at least 3 times a day, give or take.  He’s been white [...]

How can my sex addict love me, but sleep with others?

He can…he did…it hurts…a lot
There was an intersting insight last night as Bob said he never saw any other of the women as an equal.  he always thought he was better than them.  Didn’t mind thinking they were whores, but was charming enough outwardly (playing the game) to get them on board and cybersex or [...]

What’s in it for me? His sex addiction and our relationship…

Having a day today where I look at my life and wonder how it will be enhanced by staying with Bob.  Bob is a great guy, the “little porn man” is a jerk.
Do I want to sit here for the rest of my life wondering if he’s really running errands?  Do I want to play [...]

All sex addicts aren’t rapists, pedophiles or peeping toms…

While it is true there can be some sex addicts that use illegal activities as a means.  It is also true that there are sex addicts who only act out in cybersex chat rooms, masterbate, look at porn. 
Not everyone goes to hookers, rub and tugs (massage parlours), does the illegal activities written above. 
Many people with [...]

The trust is gone completely with my sex addict boyfriend…

“Bob” and I went to counselling last night. We both thought it was a good session. After the session,  for the first time in 7ish weeks we didn’t talk about his addiction or our relationship.  We just took the dog for a walk and laughed, etc.
It felt good.  It felt like the man I knew and loved.  [...]

He loves me so he has sex with others…

Recap: Bob, my BF for the past 2 years, is a sex addict.  I (we) found out 6ish weeks ago and I am messed-up.  He lived a completely double life.  He is addicted to masterbation, really soft porn, cybersex, had at least one physical affair and he’s a liar.
Ok, so here’s the thing (my conjecture)…

Bob [...]