Is Your Wife Having a Cyber Affair – Is this her?

Yep…definately bitter. I know there is some controversy surrounding naming and shaming but I’ll be honest. I’m tired of being Miss Nice Gal.

So…here it is…this person has cybersexed a lot with Bob. She was on his MSN …

HPV, Sex Addiction, Celibacy, Babies & Me

Sorry, I’ve been off the map for awhile and thank you all for your emails and concern.  It’s nice to know that our virtual community is a close one.
So this past month has been weird.  We started going to RCA, which is good.  Either by chance or maybe it’s the meetings things have started to calm [...]

Antidepressants & sex addiction

Bob’s a mess (I can relate), truly – not sleeping, no concentration and really in shock about discovering that he was not in control of his “habits” that it controlled him and he can’t get his head around it.  So, he hasn’t excluded going on anti-depressents. 
So here’s my dilemma.  I know antidepressents help slow down  [...]

4 months after learning BF is a sex addict

It’s been about 4 months since the sex addiction reared it’s head.  I’m still as confused as ever.  There are two issues now.  Obviously the sex addiction and now the fact that Bob doesn’t feel.
We’ve not had sex for over two weeks now and Bob is in the celibacy stage of recovery.  He decided to [...]

Interview with Sex Addict about Masterbation Addiction

I’m going to preface this by saying that I’m the interviewer and Bob’s partner so there be conflicts of interest here.  Also, that Bob is in therapy trying to understand himself so answers may seem short likley because he doesn’t really know.  Here goes:
First masterbated?  around 10 and would masterbate about 3 or 4 times [...]

Letter from partner of sex addict

I received an email from someone else in this boat and she said I could publish it…so here it is:
I am 27.  “James” was my first and I was his his first.  We met when I was 15 and he was 18.  We dated for about a year, then he was going to college and [...]

David Duchovny & Sex Addiction

I don’t care if David Duchovny is pleading that he is a sex addict only for a media plug for his new show.  It’s bringing some press to the addiction.  As I’ve said before in a previous post I don’t think most of us knew anything about this addiction until it hit home. Sadly.  If [...]

Who Am I Becoming? Partners of Sex Addicts

Not surprisingly, this sex addiction has rubbed me raw in emotions.  I have changed these past 3 months and into someone I do not know or particularly like.
I am angry at Bob and angry with myself for not walking away and for sometimes wanting to walk away. For both. 
I am jealous and not jealous.  Sometimes, most [...]

How to cope with your partner when you’re a sex addict

I have a few things on my chest that I want to get out, so if you’re a recovering sex addict and you have a partner, listen up!
You’ve likely lived a double life for as along as you can remember.  You’ve probably medicated yourself with porn, cybersex, masterbation and/or other sex-related activities.  If you’re recovering [...]

Spouses of sex addicts – males think differently than females

I’ve been reading a few more books and reacting to finding out your partner is a sex addict is different for males and females.
One of the books states that men are more upset about the sex part of the “relationship” and women are more worried about the emotional side.  Interesting.
I can honestly say that I [...]

White knuckling? Recovery from sex addiction

After reading a great blog post http://betrayedbycybersex.wordpress.com/2008/07/30/interesting-post-from-recovering-sex-addict/ written by a recovering sex addict I have some thoughts that he pointed out.
White knuckling is a going cold turkey – you don’t the fix problem you just abstain from it so the thought processes are still there. 
While abstaining, in my opinion (I’m no expert), has to be part [...]

8 weeks after learning my BF is a sex addict…

Well, I’ve learned a lot in 8 weeks, more than I ever wanted to know, about sex addiction.  And yet, I still have so many unanswered questions.
I still haven’t made a decision as to what to do whether I shall stay of go.  A good friend of mine gave me some advice and said not [...]

The sex was crap … admission from my sex addicted BF

Bob admitted yesterday that it was the lead-up (ritual) to meeting Lisa that was exciting and he was always disappointed physically meeting Lisa because she and they never lived up to his fantasy.
He said they’d cybersex and talk about what they were going to do to each other and the fantasy would overwhelm him until [...]

Did the uncle play a part in my BF’s sex addiction?

My BF is a sex addict.  It’s going on it’s 8th week since we figured this out.  He’s addicted to porn, masterbation, cybersex and he’s had an affair with likely another sex addict.
I had a dream about a family member of my BF’s – who I’ve never spoken to, but only met twice.  I didn’t [...]