Textbook Partner of Sex Addict – On The Cusp of my Own Affair

I have reconnected with someone I used to know. All of the books I’ve read show that there is a large number of partners of sex addicts that have affairs. I am possibly on the cusp of being that person. I feel guilty and don’t know if I can go through with it. But I think about it – I think about him – and I think about Bob.

Good days & bad days with sex addicts

Well, Bob & I are both having good days and bad days right now.  For me I have days where I can’t get the images out of my head, I snoop, which makes me feel bad about myself (my heart pounds and I feel sick while I’m doing it.  I feel sick about what I [...]

Intellectualizing vs. Feeling – Partners of Sex Addicts

A commenter on my blog says some pretty amazing things and the other day the blogger said,
“Really think about what it would feel like. Don’t intellectualize, don’t research, I think your research has actually clouded your judgement.”
I’d have to say they have a point.  While my PMS kicked into full gear the last few (angry) [...]

Traveling for work and sex addiction

Bob is going to stay at a hotel tonight without me.  We’re both nervous about tonight. 
He has to go for work.  I am currently off work so I could go too, but I know I cannot police him.  If there’s a will there’s a way.  Hotel rooms are a trigger for Bob.  He used to [...]

The trust is gone completely with my sex addict boyfriend…

“Bob” and I went to counselling last night. We both thought it was a good session. After the session,  for the first time in 7ish weeks we didn’t talk about his addiction or our relationship.  We just took the dog for a walk and laughed, etc.
It felt good.  It felt like the man I knew and loved.  [...]

Sex addiction is messing with my head…

Ok, I’m starting to feel a little calmer, more logical and certainly less crazy.  A bit, but not much.
I can’t get the thoughts of my boyfriend alone in the dark masterbating away for hours, days, months, years…to porn.  I can’t stop thinking about his physical affair and that after I found the text messages from [...]

My boyfriend is a cybersex addict

A month ago it all came out that my boyfriend is a sex addict. He’s addicted to cybersex, masterbation and he’s had an affair. That is the stuff he’s admitted to